fear and failures

by ami

I am a postgraduate(computer science. In childhood i had great fear of strangers. Teachers seemed to be ghosts. But at the age of 14 I improved a little, but I was bad in my studies. I managed to have first class (70%)marks. I studied for exams, just 2 days before the exam, so, all was in a hurry.

During my degree second year exams, my grandmother's death on the day before exam made me fail in the exams. That was a big failure in my life. but Ii happened to attend a personality class, and after that I had positive thinking and in my postgraduates I got first prize in studies (first and second year). Then my confidence level lowered. In third year I got only eighth position in my class. Now, my confidence level is zero. My friends all got jobs in companies. I didn't even approach any for a job (that much fear). I am now feeling that I am a big failure... I want to succeed in my life.

From childhood itself I didn't knew what I should become? so, I am confused of what goal I should set? mba/m.a psychology/mtech/job/something else? please help..

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fear andfailures
by: Anonymous

I would suggest that you get some counselling from somewhere and also try helping someone else who doubts themselves. This is a common problem. Look at both yourselves and endeavour to find something positive about each other.
There is a way out. When you become frightened, it is a type of paralysis and you are unable to move forward.
Keep away from any family member who may put you down and remember that people often put other people down to make themselves feel good. People do feel inadequate but cover it up.
Associate with people who encourage you and do the same to encourage others who are feeling vulnerable.

Fear and failure
by: Kay

Thank you for contacting Positive Personal Growth. When we fear something the fear is purely in our minds. We are normally fearing something that hasn't yet happened. When you get a fearful thought get rid of it by saying "I can do this"

You can succeed in life when you stop the fearful thoughts. Your fear holds you back. You have to overcome this fear by doing what it is that brings this dread to you. Bring back your power by refusing to accept thoughts of failure.

No one can tell you what you should do, how can they know? What do you enjoy doing most? Do something that you enjoy. To gain employment you have to go for an interview. Find out everything about the company you are interested in working for, so that should they ask about what it is they do you will be able to answer them with confidence. Attend the interview with a positive attitude, tell yourself that they need you because you are the right person for the job!

Good luck,
Love
Kay

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