Feeling Worthless

by Meghan
(MT Pleasant, WI)

I am a stay at home mom of three boys, while my husband works. I was let go from my job a year and half ago and I made great money.

In the past year, I have been told that I am a horrible house wife, mother, wife. I am told I am stupid and dumb all the time since I forget to make sure my husband has clean uniforms for work. Any money that I get I put in the account that I don't have access to since I overdrew the account by 2 dollars. He took my card out of my wallet while I was sleeping.

I have zero friends, since he tells them that I am mentally unstable and what ever else he has told them.

I feel I have no reason for going on anymore.

HELP PLEASE

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DO BOYS REALLY NEED THEIR MOM'S
by: Terri

I think I would have to disagree with the whole your boys love you bs the fact is if they are not taught to love you by their father they will treat you the same crappy way he treats you. Or that is at least my experience. I feel the same way-disrespected and worthless! I am wondering why god gave me three boys that are never going to have any use for me after they use me for what they need/want!

I KNOW
by: Anonymous

PLEASE NEVER FEEL LIKE UR WORTHLESS CAUSE YOU HAVE UR THREE HANDSOME BOYS THAT WILL LOVE YOU FOREVER NO MATTER WHAT AND THEY THERE FOR YOU AND WHEN YOU UP/DOWN-RICH/POOR SO CHIN UP MAMA YOU DA BEST TO UR BOYS/GOD BELIEVE ME I NO HOW IT CAN FEEL TO WORTHLESS MY KIDS DADDY MADE ME FEEL THAT WAY AND I BEEN A STAY AT MOM FOR THREE YEARS AND HE UP AND LEFT ME/OUR KIDS AFTER 18 YEARS FOR SOMEONE YOUNGER THEN ME HE MEET ON THE INTERNET AND I WAS DA ONE WHO ALWAYS WORKED CAUSE HE DISABLE AND GET A CHECK ONCE A MONTH BUT IM THANKFUL FOR MY FAMILY/FRIEND THAT HELPS MY OUT....AND HOPE THINGS GET BETTER FOR YOU SOON JUST ALWAYS REMEMBER YOUR KIDS/GOD IS LOVE....LOVE IS YOUR KIDS/GOD PS:TEXAS

Feeling worthless
by: Kay

Thank you for contacting Positive Personal Growth. There is a huge reason for going on. You are the mother of three children who love you.

I wonder whether your problems have started since you lost your job, the extra money relieved pressure, and I imagine your husband finds it more difficult to support his family. Have you thought of getting another job? Even for a few hours a week, or a couple of days a week? Doing something positive like this should make you feel better about yourself and will certainly help with the finances, and give you some money to spend on yourself.

There is no need to lose contact with your friends, but you will if you don't contact them. Don't assume that no one wants to know you, I doubt this very much, but if you lock yourself away because you think this you will be making yourself unhappy for no reason. At least give friends the chance to meet with you.

Take control of your life, you know your aren't those things your husband tells you, so don't dwell on what he says. Make a life for yourself within your marriage. If you find it difficult to get a job initially, go out where you can meet other mothers with children so that your children have friends to play with and you have adults you can speak to and become friends with.

Good luck.

Love
Kay
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