I can't get over my ex.

"Perhaps nothing is ever quite as painful as getting over your first love. It's not just any old break-up; this is the boy/girl who taught you what it means to fall in love. You thought you'd spend the rest of your lives together. You made plans for the future to live together or go to college together. You have loads of jokes and memories of the time you spent together. Now that it's over, you're scared that you'll never find anyone to ever replace them, or maybe you're just afraid that you wont ever be as happy with someone else." That is exactly how I feel.


I am still madly in love with my most recent ex-girlfriend, who was the first girl I've ever truly been in love with. I thought we'd be together forever, were just perfect for each other in every facet imaginable. But after having an amazing relationship together things came undone. I miss her more, and more everyday. I realize more, and more everyday that I'll never be anything but miserable and unhappy without her. I grow more and more miserable every day. I do not go out nearly as much as I used to, simply because I do not have the ambition to.

No matter where I go or what I do everything reminds me of her somehow. I think about her 24/7, have dreams about her 2-3 times a week, I miss her so much. She is the most beautiful, most amazing girl that has every lived. But she has moved on and I have not, we've been broken up for over a year now and I've made no progress at getting over her. Hell if anything its just gotten worse.

She has a new boyfriend now, who I know from high school and is a total and complete waste of life who'll never amount to anything which just makes things worse. The thought of another guy as much as hugging her makes me want to put a bullet through my head. I miss her, her smile, her eyes, I miss falling asleep in each others arms, I miss her laugh, I miss the way she could always cheer me up no matter how bad a mood I was in, I miss how we used to do everything together, I miss spending time with her, I miss the smell of her perfume, I miss the sound of her voice, I miss being happy, I miss her.

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I can't get over my ex
by: Anonymous

It is an unhappy experience that young people go through, they meet someone who they feel will be with them for ever. Unfortunately people move on if they do not feel the same, towards the boy or girl they have been mates with.

The feelings of rejection are very painful and not only that is a hurt to pride as well.
Some counselling may be helpful, you cannot expect her to come back to you but in the future you will meet other young people with whom you will form a bond.

At this moment you need a space to be able to grieve and it is like a death which is more painful than if she had actually died.
Years later when you happen to look back after you have had a happy relationship with another person, it will be easier to accept that it might not have worked. We change as we grow older and what might have worked when we were young might not work now.

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