I don't know how to talk to the people -

by manar
(usa )

that's me

I am just a 16 years old boy suffering from being unable to talk clearly and nicely to the people around me. I really feel sad and abashed, because I am a human and I feel I should be like any other human in the world, smart, sophisticated, wise, alert, nice, self-confident, and strong.

I actually have non of the those qualities and that's why I am unsuccessful and stupid between my friends, family, teachers, and any other people. Whenever I talk to myself I discover that I am away far from the current world and I am really retarded. I have no idea what's going on around me and why I am like that? Why I am not smart or at least good like any other people. I feel stupid, dumb, foolish, not smart, retarded, rude, nasty, awful, evil, and undeveloped. I feel stupid right now while I am writing this thing.

Can anyone help me out to get rid of that feeling and teach how to talk and interact with the people and the world?
Thank very much

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by: Raemy

Hello "I don't know how to talk to the people,"
I can relate to the situation that you have described. However, time has taught me over the years some very valuable lessons. Believe it or not, one such lesson is making goals, setting reasonable action steps, and acting upon it. It seems as though your mind is already made-up; however, I would suggest making it into a goal. It will take time, but, with effort goals can become reality.

In fact, I feel as though we are on the same page. However, I have the ability to make goals, knowing, I must follow though with action steps. Moreover, I know failing is a natural part of reaching for those goals. That is when action steps become the most vital of all.

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You're Still Young
by: Anonymous

Hey, there

Talking to people comes with experience and confidence and that how to learn to talk to people.

Let me start, you are only 16 and have limited experience talking to people as you only talk to your parents, friends and teachers. The older you get the more experience you will get chatting to other adults and eventually you will find it easy.

Right now you need to start to be happy with the person you see in the mirror and from the tone of your message it seem like you hate yourself. This is the first issue you need address once you are happy with who you are as a person than you will find it easier to talk other people because you feel confidence about yourself. Your negative tone is what preventing you from talking to other people because you feel like an outcast.

This is something you need work on it might take several months to get confidence to talk to people but i promise you the older you get the easier it becomes but you need work on it slowly.

I hope this has help if you have any question please respond to this comment.

I don't know how to talk to people
by: Anonymous

You are not stupid or foolish, no one is, you are capable of so much more but you have not found yourself yet.

Make a list of all the things you enjoy doing and are good at and concentrate on those. You have interests, you will find other people with those interests. Family are not always the best people to give you confidence. If they pull you down there are other people out there who have been through what you have been through and they will help and encourage you. If there is a counsellor or a teacher at school who is sympathetic go and talk to them. Maybe they have noticed what has been happening but waited until you came to them, just try that and see how things go Best of luck

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