Lack of Motivation

by TruLibra

I am diagnosed with severe depression. I know what I need to do to have a better life, and that is what I want to do, but I don't have the motivation.

I feel it is ingrained in me not to become a better person. Even trying to stop smoking has become especially hard. I don't have any support with my illness, or becoming better as a person.

I have so many reasons to change, but cannot muster the strength to do it. I want to, but I can't, it's like I am emotionally paralyzed.

I have low self-esteem and no confidence in myself. What do I do!!??

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Australian perspective
by: katie

I have been depressed on and off for years.

The truth is that inner dialogue and healthy lifestyle are a major part of recovery but also that if you cannot simply 'get over it' through these methods then YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE.

This article made it seem quite simple but in reality many people deal with depression for many years and it will be an ongoing battle to get happy. Even if you have access to counselors, nutritionists, physical trainers and most important a loving circle of family and friends.

I think the most important thing is to go easy on yourself. Each day try and do a little bit of something and pretty much 'brace' yourself until it passes and you can exercise and be happy and successful again.
Lack of Motivation
by: Kay

Lack of motivation is disheartening, even more so as you know the way you want to be, but can't make the effort to get motivated


The important thing is that you have to start liking yourself. You
need to realize that you are a worthwhile, and special person.


A positive attitude is vital, it will help you to change the thoughts you have about yourself.


When you have a negative thought pattern it creates a negative outcome to what you attempt to do.
Try not to dwell on the fact that you can't get motivated, as these thoughts are making your reality.

How you think of yourself is the way you will be, and so, if you can start by thinking positive things about yourself, this will make you feel better.


It will help if you make your self talk positive. Tell yourself how worthwhile you are, and how confident you feel, even though you don't feel this way at the moment.

If you tell your sub-conscious something often enough, it will believe you. It can't tell the difference between a lie and the truth, so begin telling it how confident you are!


This may be hard to accept, but you do have a choice as to how you feel. You can choose to be negative or positive.

Make it a point to dwell on the positive, and whenever you think "I can't be bothered" thoughts, instantly get rid of them, and replace them with a positive statement, such as, "I can do this," and then give it a go!

Your success hinges on a positive attitude, and positive self talk.

Thank you for taking the time to share your problem.

My hope is that a visitor may relate to your problem, and then tell his/her story as to how he/she got through.

Good luck

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