Low self condifence

by Nicole
(Birmingham)

I am 15 years old and as a child have always had a problem with confidence. I am doing my GCSEs within the next couple of years and I am predicted A and A* grades but I don't believe in myself and find myself panicking about exams.

I have always had good friends but recently I seem to be getting more quiet and less confident around them. A lot of the time now I find myself getting left out of activities they do together and never find myself much to do with anything.

In classes I have also got a lot of speaking exams to do but I will just get nervous and shake, unable to ever complete my speeches. This often depresses me and I want to be able to feel good about myself and not constantly worried about one thing or another.

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Thankyou
by: Anonymous

Thank you very much for your help. I am glad I shared my story and hopefully now I will be able to progress and not always be worrying about something on my mind.

Thank you again,
Nicole

Low self confidence
by: Kay

Thank you for contacting Positive Personal Growth. The complete cause of your problem is stated by you in the first paragraph of your message. This is that you don't believe in yourself.

As soon as you let this self limiting thought take root inside your mind, it grows bigger, and gets out of control affecting your relationships, and causes you to fear things that are in the future.

With regard to your speaking exams, before you speak, calm yourself by taking in two or three deep breaths and say to yourself "I can do this" and start talking. Trust that you have the ability to speak about what you are supposed to. Don't rush, if you are lost for words tell yourself "I am calm", take another deep breath, gather your thoughts and continue speaking.

When you do this once, you will feel strong inside, take this feeling with you when you have your next exam, and repeat what you did when you took the first one.

Whenever I get messages from young people I wish I could reach out and give them a big hug and let them know how wonderful and brave they are, and so my heart goes out to you, because I know how difficult it is. I also know (because I am old lol) that we cause so many of our problems by limiting ourselves with thoughts of not being able to do things.

When you to concentrate on what you can do, and the fact that your friends like and want to be with you, and then start believing in yourself again you will see that life isn't at all bad, and that you are a capable person with the ability to pass all the exams you take.

Love
Kay

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